Presence is the Antidote

There is not a single mother I know who isn’t feeling some level of overwhelm, myself included here.

Our attention is being asked for by many people and from many sources. Apart from those who need and deserve it the most; you know, our children, our spouses, our family; modern life asks much of our attention. The pings of technology, the rate of information as it virtually thrusts itself into our homes, everything available on all of our devices all at once. I don’t know about where you live, but where I am the postman delivers less and less with each passing month because so much more is coming to us through our bulging virtual inboxes.  

All of it is calling seductively for our attention. 

As you read this messages are continuing to land in your inbox. By the time you reach the end there will be dozens more updates waiting for your perusal on your social media. When your children arrive home in the afternoon they will have happily transported their gorgeous art, school notes, pet rocks and other what-nots into the home and your headspace. And they want you. They want you to see. 

What are you going to do about this?  

The jobs will keep coming.

Those emails will keep arriving.

The demands will have more urgency.

Many of us are hoping that once the decks are cleared we will have the peace and presence.  It’s like we think that checking off everything we need to do will allow us the space to finally be able to give our attention.

There is a popular Zen quote that could apply equally well to the laundry or the dishes: 

"Before Enlightenment chop wood, carry water. After enlightenment chop wood, carry water"

Once we accept that the flow of jobs is never ending, we are in a better place to become the master of our attention. (tweet this)

Overwhelm is not possible when we are present. Being present is a state of being in the flow of life.  

The first step to extinguishing overwhelm is to be present now.

Sandra WangComment